Whether you are highly successful or whether you are just starting out on your journey, one thing for sure is that you can’t argue with the benefits of support. It’s that shot in the arm, that feeling of comfort, that extra little push that helps you get where you want to go just a little easier and a little quicker. When you are looking to change anything in your life, that’s definitely the time when you require the most support. Just think for a moment about the amount of inner support that you have had to muster up during those transitional periods. Now imagine combining that inner support with support from the outside, and then you get a better idea of how you can take your life to the next level in a much easier, smoother way. But if that sounds good to you, then why don’t people use it more often?
There are several reasons that prevent people from seeking support, but the one that is most common is that many people believe that if they do things all by themselves, it means they are a better person. But unfortunately, it rarely works like that because the people that choose to do it all alone usually have a harder time achieving what they really want. And in the end, they can wind up feeling more alone.
Another major reason that makes it difficult to ask for help is that many people feel uncomfortable about reaching out, so they decide to hold back, often out of fear. They are literally afraid of being let down or hurt if they reach out to people. After all, no one likes to experience rejection. And let’s face it…it can be hard to reach out especially if you are feeling vulnerable, or worse yet “needy”. Another typical reason for not asking for support is that there literally isn’t anyone in their circle of connections that is a viable option for them to turn to. And if that’s the case, then it’s time to widen that circle. So rather than use all of these reasons as excuses, why not try something different? Get out of your comfort zone and make that effort to ask for help.
On the flip side, there are many people who are able to ask for support. So what’s their secret? These are the people who are comfortable with themselves and their personal power. They are also the people that tend to be more accepting of their strengths and weaknesses. They have experienced positive results from outside help in the past, and so they are able to continually build on these successes.
So how do you enlist support from others? First let’s acknowledge that there are two types of support. One is free and the other involves a fee. The free support can come through a friend, an associate, a family member, a “support group”, a mastermind group or the Universe. Support that you pay for may come from a networking group, a professional group, a mentor, a coach, a consultant, a therapist, a religious or spiritual leader, a healer, or a body-worker.
Whatever you choose, it’s best to be clear with what you need so that you can achieve better results. The other thing to do is to practice being comfortable asking for and receiving support. Remember you’re an adult asking for support rather than a child or a victim. Keeping this in mind, you can ask from “want” energy rather than “need” energy. There’s a difference here because one implies that you have a choice while the other implies that you have no choice whatsoever. Asking from a place of “want”, which has power, allows you to get better results.
Once you ask for support from a place of power you must be open to receive and accept it. Feel the positive feelings of being deserving of another’s support. Because after all, you can get the best support in the world, but unless you are open, you will not even allow it into your consciousness. Finally, after you fully receive the support, thank the person and then let it go.
The good news is that this does get easier with practice just like everything else.