Let us begin by identifying personal power. Personal power comes from within your true authentic self. From this place, you feel comfortable being you and expressing yourself freely. You feel totally secure. When you operate from your personal power, you define yourself rather than being defined by the outside world.
What personal power is not, is about trying to control things or force issues by applying pressure. It is also not about having to prove yourself to others. In fact, these particular ways of operating really come down to your ego rather than your true inner power.
Let us not confuse being powerful by having a hefty job or job title. You may very well be powerful but unless you are operating from your own personal power, then you are just conforming to an organization and playing by their rules. Also keep in mind that many people can be very powerful in their professional life, and yet lack it in their personal life, and vice versa. So think about your own life…who or what do you give your power away to? Whether it’s a person, organization, condition, or something else outside of yourself like food, clothing, alcohol, TV, or time, these are just many of the ways that you may be giving away your power.
Even though you may be giving it away, this does not mean that you can’t take it back. And when you do, this is not at the expense of another person because there is enough power to go around for everyone. When you are secure with your power, you come from a place in your soul where you know you have enough of it. There is no need to hold on to it so tightly because you are fearful that someone will take it away. When you come from true inner power, there is no fear of taking too much of it because you know there is plenty of power to go around. There is room for everyone to shine! And doesn’t it feel great to be around people who are in their personal power? These people are grounded, energized and positive.
Try this Personal Power Self-Assessment:
- Do you easily give in to other people?
- Do you say “yes” when you want to say “no”?
- Are you willing to disappoint people in order to be true to yourself?
- How comfortable are you with conflict?
- What image do you feel that you have to live up to?
- Whose expectations do you need to meet?
- How comfortable are you expressing your true feelings?
- Do you feel that you are living a life that is true to your heart?
If your answers show a power shortage then it is time to create a new plan of action. If you are tired of playing by the rules (and whose rules are they anyway?), then get ready to change this pattern. When you decide that you want more for your life, begin by tapping into your personal power and start living the life of your choosing. Be willing to take that chance. Step into your Larger Self. This week choose to say “YES” to your personal power and “YES” to what feels true to your heart and then go for it!